I love this city. Charleston, SC. The “Holy City.” So much history. So much beauty. So much food! It’s one of our favorite places to visit. Hard to believe it’s been six years since we’ve been together. Also hard to believe what’s happened since we were here last.
Six years ago, we came to Charleston to celebrate Amanda’s birthday. It a bittersweet celebration, because a few weeks before we had lost our first baby to a miscarriage. I brought Amanda here to get her away from everything, to help her heal. To help me heal.
Six years ago, I was a salesman in the furniture industry. Amanda was an executive assistant.
Six years ago, we thought we had it all figured out. You see, we had a house. We had good jobs. We were going to start our family. We were living it. We were making it happen.
Six years ago, I realized I didn’t have a clue.
Flash forward to tonight. Amanda and I were walking along the pier, enjoying the evening, and it hit me just how much things had changed since we were here last! Six years ago, we were in this city, as close to despair as I can ever remember being. But when we go home this week, we’ll be greeted by not one, but TWO amazing, beautiful little girls! TWO!!!
We moved out of the “big city”. We sold our house. Lesson: the things I thought mattered, really didn’t matter so much. God began teaching us that keeping up with the Joneses is over-rated, and that happiness does not depend in the abundance of possessions. Not an easy lesson, to be sure, but an invaluable one.
We both changed jobs. I left the sales business and got the unbelievable opportunity to teach middle school for two years. I never saw this coming, but it was an experience that I’ll never forget. Amanda began the most important, yet financially unappreciated, job of staying home with our girls. That, I saw coming, but she’s even better at it that I could’ve dreamed. She once told her boss that her desire was to be a stay-at-home mom. I’m so glad God gave her that desire.
God’s ways are not our ways. There were so many twists and turns in the past 6 years, I couldn’t list them all here. Plus, it’d bore you to tears, I’m certain. But I wouldn’t change it for anything. In a few days, we start a new chapter in our lives when I go on staff at our church. Like all the other bends in the road, it’s both scary and exciting.
And unlike 6 years ago, I don’t think I’ve got it figured out. But I know He does. And I rest in that.